I know we all have busy schedules and I'd love to be less busy but it also doesn’t mean things can slow down for some of us right now. Maybe you've got young children that demand all of your time. Or work is overwhelming right now and there is no way out because you have to pay your bills. Maybe your studies is in an upheaval right now and you're being pulled in a million different ways.
It seems something will always demand our attention, our precious time and our ever so limited resources. So the question is 'How do I REST in the midst of it all?
This is a very good question that most of us struggle to answer because rest is different for everyone. Am not saying I have the answer to this question but I hope that the following tips can help you tackle this issue because we all know that we can't take care of others if we're not taking care of ourselves first.
Self care is a divine responsibility and one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself is learning to pay attention to your body. We have become so sophisticated and distracted in our everyday lives that we forget our own human needs. Always remember that you can’t do it all. We all know that. So stop saying ‘yes’ to every offer or plea. Make your ‘yes’ mean more by being selective. And don’t apologize for your ‘no’. Let it be enough because you are enough. And remember if you listen to your body when it whispers, you wont have to hear it when it screams.
Allow yourself to be happy. Some times we act as if we have a debt to pay off before we're allowed to be happy. Yes, we've made mistakes but its time to move on because if we don't allow ourselves to experience good emotions, we're cutting ourselves off and accentuating sadness, fear and anger. Spare one evening a month to have dinner with friends. Set a date in your diary and stick to it. It doesn’t have to be expensive, you can ask a few friends to have dinner at a set time every month, you won’t all be able to make it every month, but getting into the rhythm of meeting with friends will give you something to look forward to.
SAVOR YOUR QUIET TIME
The only quiet time I get in my day is the 60 minutes drive to and from work. 70 per cent of this time is mine. I refuse to talk on the phone during these times, I don’t try to multitask or catch up with friends. This is my time to prepare for the day, or to unwind from a stressful day of work so I don’t take it out on my family when I get home. Find your non-negotiable sacred quiet time and then guard it jealously. I look forward to those few minutes where no one needs anything from me and it helps me be more attentive when it’s time to serve others again.
TREASURE YOUR BLESSINGS
Each day write down one thing you are thankful for. Being thankful for your blessings puts your focus in the right place. Most times, we forget all the good things in our lives and focus on things we think are going wrong. In all things we so blessed by a God who cares deeply and walks with us through all our difficulties.
Finally, never sacrifice your sanity to make things happen when overwhelmed and remember to always ask yourself this question "What is best for me?"